What to Do When a Colleague Is Annoying You

當(dāng)你和他人緊密在一起工作的時候，緊張的情況是一定會產(chǎn)生的。我們許多人在這些情況下都不會吭聲，擔(dān)心一旦講出來會傷害到友誼。

但是讓事情就這樣悶在心里頭經(jīng)常會讓事情更糟糕。反而，應(yīng)該用一種積極的方式把情況說清楚。

首先，要確保你的出發(fā)點是為了更好的合作。不要只是發(fā)泄你的不滿；你可以這樣說，“ 我們的工作關(guān)系對我來說很重要，對此我有些想法，我可以跟你講講么？”

接著，要基于事實，描述一個特定的事件，這件事讓你感受是怎么樣的，以及為什么這件事對你來說重要。一定要問，“ 對于這件事你是怎么看的？” 留意對方的回答，即使你不同意。

然后要決定如何共同改善這個情況。當(dāng)大家攜起手來解決這個問題，情況就完全可能得到改善。

When you work closely with other people, tensions are bound to arise. Many of us bite our tongues in these situations, worrying that speaking up will harm the relationship.

But letting something simmer often makes things worse. Instead, address the situation in a productive way.

First, make sure that your intention is to be more collaborative. Don’t just launch into your spiel; say something like, “Our working relationship is important to me, and there’s something on my mind — can I talk to you about it?”

Then stick to the facts, describing one particular incident, how it made you feel, and why it matters to you. Be sure to ask, “What’s your perspective on this?” Pay attention to the answer, even if you disagree.?

Then decide how to improve the situation together.?When both people have a hand in shaping the solution, the situation is more likely to improve.